Parenthood’s Long Goodbye: This is When We Let Go.At my daughter’s preschool, they called it the waving window. It was at the back of the classroom and at morning drop-off, your child could…Sep 13, 20222Sep 13, 20222
After a particularly contentious custody battle in the 1970s, my mother reluctantly loaded me onto…Soon after we’d arrived at his house in Pacific Grove, Dad pointed out the change jar on his dresser; I was welcome to help myself to it…May 28, 2021May 28, 2021
Want to save the republic? Find your Kippy Kauffman.Way back in January, Kippy and I met under terrible circumstances: her daughter Haley’s boyfriend Greg had been in a serious accident and…Sep 9, 2020Sep 9, 2020
Home is wherever you are.Years ago, when my kids were small, and we were in Los Angeles for Thanksgiving— at the home of my mother — my then six-year old daughter…Aug 10, 2020Aug 10, 2020
Ring Theory, Pandemic Edition: Comfort In, Dump Out, Switch.Usually, with trauma and grief, there’s a single person or a couple or one family who is at the core of what’s happened. I love…Mar 31, 2020Mar 31, 2020
Detachment ParentingBefore my daughter was even twenty-four hours old, I was learning to let go.Jan 13, 20161Jan 13, 20161